Thank you for sharing Cindy! It's a real journey unpacking all the purity culture garbage. I had a sort of grieving process for all the sex education I DIDN'T receive and the myths/lies I received instead. Thank goodness for the book Come as You Are, I recommend it to everyone!!
Such a wonderful article, Cindy. Thank you for being willing (once more) to live your journey so we can learn alongside you. As a former pastor I have identified with much of your journey and grateful you are shedding light on this essential part of reclaiming our lives. Your work is so valuable.
Wow, what an incredibly vulnerable and vital post. Thanks for writing these words! I have discovered how much purity culture screwed up my cis male mind. I used to think that purity culture was something that only affected women -- you know, evangelical misogyny and all. But wow, was I wrong!
Feelings of male entitlement, body ownership, shame, failure, you name it... all originate from there.
Definitely affected men too, reduced men to sex crazed lust monsters with no healthy understanding of integrating natural, human, healthy sexual desires with honoring boundaries and consent.
Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. I always learn a lot from your experience. Would you be able to share the names of the other books and podcasts that helped you along this sexual journey?
Thank you for sharing Cindy! It's a real journey unpacking all the purity culture garbage. I had a sort of grieving process for all the sex education I DIDN'T receive and the myths/lies I received instead. Thank goodness for the book Come as You Are, I recommend it to everyone!!
Yes, thanks for pointing it out as grief.
Such a wonderful article, Cindy. Thank you for being willing (once more) to live your journey so we can learn alongside you. As a former pastor I have identified with much of your journey and grateful you are shedding light on this essential part of reclaiming our lives. Your work is so valuable.
Thank you for these kind words.
Wow, this is so comparable to my experiences! I explored and questioned everything because I was taught nothing! Thank you for sharing!
The sexual silence was truly an injustice.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey so authentically. I identify so much with what you share here.
thank you for reading <3
Wow, what an incredibly vulnerable and vital post. Thanks for writing these words! I have discovered how much purity culture screwed up my cis male mind. I used to think that purity culture was something that only affected women -- you know, evangelical misogyny and all. But wow, was I wrong!
Feelings of male entitlement, body ownership, shame, failure, you name it... all originate from there.
Definitely affected men too, reduced men to sex crazed lust monsters with no healthy understanding of integrating natural, human, healthy sexual desires with honoring boundaries and consent.
This is a pretty terrifying journey to be honest. But also incredibly centering and validating.
Yes, for sure, thank you for reading <3
Thank you. This is so well written and super helpful to me and for my teens and younger kids also. Thank you for sharing.
we have the opportunity to break the sexual silence so many of us grew up with
Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. I always learn a lot from your experience. Would you be able to share the names of the other books and podcasts that helped you along this sexual journey?
Beyond Shame by Matthias Roberts
All of Esther Perel's stuff - books/podcasts, etc.
Savage Lovecast - Dan Savage
Thank you so much!
Amazing. Thank you for sharing!! I want so many girls/women in purity culture to know this!